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Meditations for Jewish Women

Telling Tales of Sacrifice
Why tell stories of men and women who put their life in great danger for the sake of Judaism if that could sow fear in the heart of a young student?
A Divine Spice
There’s much more to Shabbat than the food.
Free Choice
My brother-in-law is visiting, and he’s offering my kids a choice of treats: a smashed box of raisins or a shiny bar of chocolate.
Unapologetic Mothering
When tending to a baby’s needs, there is no need to be apologetic.
A Gentle Rebuke
We think we need to be crystal clear. We discipline our children, elaborating on exactly what they have done wrong, and then reiterating it again to ensure that they never repeat the same crime again. But we might consider tempering our clarity just a bit.
Sacred Privacy
In a world filled with TMI, who notices privacy policies anymore?
A Gate for Life
Boundaries take many forms, but they always have two things in common
When Equality Fails
The same way equality with “stuff” is counterproductive, so is equality in status.
The Coveted Pendant
The necklace symbolized the mutual commitment the couple had for each other and for their values.
Purpose in the Real World
The Torah was never intended for angels, or humans with no physical concerns.
A Love Affair With G-d
You wouldn’t think to look to scripture for a romantic, sensual, love poem. But if you take a peek at King Solomon’s Song of Songs you’ll be blown away by the imagery and passion.
My Body Is Making a Baby
Of course I have limitations right now, but that’s not because I’m lazy or running on lack of sleep! In my womb lies a precious soul, and my body’s ability to create another life is nothing short of miraculous!
Thoughts After a Stillbirth
I didn’t want to hear that my gargantuan loss was just random. I needed to believe that there was meaning to it.
No Gossiping About Myself
I deserve the Worst Mother of the Year award!
Disengage From Battle
You can choose not to engage in the battle. Instead of fighting the thoughts, disregard them. Or more accurately, replace them.
Finding a Healthy Outlet
Spending most of our waking hours dealing with tiny humans and mundane tasks can present a challenge.
How a Child Named ‘Bitter’ Was the Catalyst for Redemption
Why name a child "Bitter"? Why wallow in bitterness—wouldn’t that only serve to demoralize her and her loved ones?
No Resemblance
I never quite figured out how to do it. These savvy people pick up an archaic piece of furniture in a second-hand shop, dab some paint on it and change the drawer handles, and the remodeled piece is fondly dubbed “vintage.”
Prioritizing Prayer
Did you ever try getting hungry children to cooperate?
Not About Me
Giving to others often comes with a fringe benefit, that warm, fuzzy feeling inside.
True Value
Is my worth based on my socioeconomic status?
Body Before Soul
Before he fed their souls, he made sure that they were cared for physically.
Uniquely You
Without intending to, we often turn a casual social get-together or a joyous family gathering into an opportunity to develop an inferiority complex.
No Such Thing as Regular
Sometimes we don’t see our own value.
Asking for the Important Stuff
We all have our bucket list of things we would appreciate having in our lives, but let’s make sure the important ones are at the top.
Education Above All
The laws of supply and demand state that at any given moment I have five things in my life vying for the same time slot, but there is still one obligation that I must learn to place above all.
A Peaceful Obligation
We all want a great marriage. We all want to feel the love, experience the passion, and live happily ever after. But what about when things don’t go so smoothly?
G-d Doesn't Need You
As a mother, there are oh so many things to worry about. Does my son have friends? Is he being bullied? Is he bullying? Is he reading at grade level? Will he turn out alright? These small anxieties can really add up. . . . How do I process these thoughts so they don’t put me on edge?
Destructive Yelling
Yelling works, right? For about a minute. And then the long-term results are disastrous.
Fighting Loneliness
At the age of 22, I discovered a new emotion.
Physical Food
Whenever I have guests, I find myself spending hours peeling, chopping, frying, slicing, pouring and many more verbs. And sometimes it’s hard, and I need some motivation to keep me going in the kitchen.
Catalyst for Redemption
Why bring children into this mess of a world? Why build a family, only to experience hardship, challenge and strife?
Trust
Children don’t just forget about empty promises; to them, dishonesty is dishonesty.
Not Perfect—But Perfect for You
Until the coming of Moshiach, there exists no individual who can possibly be perfect, devoid of all flaws.
Baby Steps
My child is in the middle of the process.
Jewish Mother’s Guilt
Guilt is counterproductive.
Don't Despair
Sometimes, we just mess up. We fall short of our own idealistic aspirations.
Existential Purpose
“Why?” The question can take on a life of its own, morphing into “What’s the point of all this? What is the purpose of this endless spiral of time—with the repeat tasks, challenges and frustrations of day-to-day living?”
Dancing with Fire
Isn’t it strange for rabbis, leaders and learned men to make a spectacle of themselves? Is it not demeaning?
Enlivened
The good thing is, G‑d didn’t just leave us with a list of commandments. He also gave us the ability to understand the meaning and symbolism behind many of the mitzvahs so that they don’t remain dry.
Unconditional Love
While love can begin for an external reason, it needs to mature into unconditional love.
Spiritual Barometer
I am meant to be happy with my lot, but only in the physical realm.
The Women's Holiday
I now have a righteous reason not to wash clothes!
A Growing Grown-Up
Do you ever feel that you still haven’t figured out what you’ll do “when you grow up”?
Without Shame
It is so much easier to be sensitive to others in a professional environment. It’s much harder to be sensitive to friends and family who are in one’s immediate circle.
Potential Energy
Potential is only worth something when it is acted upon.